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Interview - Jeremy Anderson
Jeremy Anderson recently was told he was not the one by The Bachelorette DeAnna Pappas. Anderson left with lots of questions on his mind, and during ABC's recent taping of The Bachelorette: The Men Tell All, he planned on getting some answers. But he ended up feeling more in the dark about Pappas, leaving him questioning Pappas and her intentions on the show.
"What I really wanted to know is that when she let me go, she told me that she knew right away once I told her, 'I'm falling for you.' She said, 'I knew right then I was going to have to let you go.' So I asked her during The Men Tell All, 'You told me right then, right when I said that. So why would you then give me the [Fantasy Suite Card] and spend the night with me?'" Anderson told journalists in a recent interview.
"She just kind of dodged the question. I never could understand why, if she was being honest with me and she didn't want to lead anybody on, why would you do that? That's the worst kind of lead on you could do — 'Hey, I don't really want to spend anymore time with you, but I want to spend the night with you.' That was just very, very off for me."
Even though Anderson tried hard to get the answers he needed, Pappas wouldn't budge, leaving Anderson frustrated by the process.
"I asked her the question three times, and she never understood what I was asking, or never got to the point of what I was asking. Either I was being confusing or a little vague, or maybe she just didn't know what to say," Anderson told reporters. "I never got an answer to the question that I was looking for."
Anderson also mentioned to reporters that Pappas "seemed a lot different" from the last time he had seen her. "She's normally really, really sweet to everybody, and some of the comments she was making on The Men Tell All were very off for her," explained Anderson to Reality TV World.
"Maybe she was just in a different mood, or she's ready to be over with everything. I don't know. But she definitely was not her normal, overly-nice self. When she was talking to me, she had always been really sweet to me, no matter what. Last night she was just being very poignant at points when she's usually a little more diplomatic."
Pappas seemed cold in the way she let Anderson go, saying that he was "perfect" and calling herself "stupid" for sending him home. Perhaps Pappas was scared by perfect, because she let Anderson know she wasn't in love with him.
While in the limousine, traveling away from the compound, Anderson told reporters, "I was sick to my stomach; I just didn't want to throw up. I was still in shock, that hadn't worn off yet."
Being called "perfect" seemed to become a stigma for Anderson, and he tried to explain to reporters why that attribution was given to him.
"It took me towards the end of the season before I really started to get comfortable. So in the beginning — when we weren't around all the crew — it was a lot easier for me to relax a little bit. But even still, the situation had me a little nervous. So I think she never really got to see the full picture," he told reporters. "What she was calling 'perfect' was me being camera-ready all the time, if you will. A little nervous, I wasn't too aware of my surroundings. I think she wanted me to be a little bit more natural, and it took a while for that to happen."
When the show began, Anderson was considered an early front-runner when he received Pappas' first-impression rose and lived with her in the mansion for the first two weeks of the show.
Anderson told journalists, "Her throwing me up there in the front kind of made me take a much more aggressive approach. I just didn't want it to be me getting comfortable, sitting back. If anything, me being thrust up there in the front, it actually pushed a lot of the other guys. They did a lot of things they didn't normally do."
Anderson also mentioned the "guys were a lot more respectable and stepped up their game towards the end."
All season, Anderson took a lot of flack from the other suitors; they gave him awful nicknames and called him "tactless."
"I think it was just having fun with it. They didn't really think that. Every time they would say it in [confessionals] they would come back and tell me, 'I just called you this. I was just joking'," he told reporters in the recent conference call.
"You try to join the guys as much as you can, but in the end you have to remember that it's going to be you against the other guy. I think it was just the competitive nature of it, and me being in the position I was in, in the house, it was never meant to be taken seriously."
Another one of Pappas's early favorites, and one of Anderson's biggest competitors, was Graham Bunn, who was eliminated in the previous episode. Ironically, losing his biggest competitor didn't help him Anderson. It actually hurt his chances with Pappas.
"It definitely made me scared about my status," Anderson told reporters. "It kind of threw off the balance. The whole time I had seen the chemistry with her and Graham. When she got rid of him, it just made me question a lot of things and mostly it made me question, 'Well she's getting rid of the guy that I thought was her No. 1.' The guys were saying it was me and Graham, me and Graham, Jeremy and Graham — the whole time. When she gets rid of Graham, there's no more Jeremy and Graham. There's just Jeremy, and I'm not so sure that Jeremy's going to be around much longer either. I was right."
Anderson might have felt like his time at the house was coming to an end, and that he was going to be on the chopping block soon, but he feels there wasn't anything more he could do to show Pappas how he felt.
"I can tell you I did everything I was willing to do," he told journalists. "You can take that however you want."
Anderson told reporters that Pappas changed how she interacted with the men on the show and began to treat the men differently.
"There's a lot of things I've seen of DeAnna — she let us see what she wanted us to see. One of the things I got on her about was that she started getting more and more closed off as the season went along," he said. "So I kind of gave her a hard time about that, especially during The Men Tell All."
In the end, Anderson realized Pappas wasn't the one for him, and that there was someone else meant to fill that role.
"I think I initially thought this could be the one, and that's the reason I allowed myself to feel the things I did and have the discussions that I did and things progressed the way they did," he explained. "But after watching it and seeing both sides of the coin, you see what you want to see. In that situation, I very much read into DeAnna the things that weren't there, unfortunately. But she's a great girl, and I wish her all the best."
While Anderson did get his heart broken, he's already moving on with his life.
"I have started seeing someone. It was tough in the beginning, and it was tough to get back out there because you can't really date while the show is going on," he told reporters. "Once the show was over, I could kind of explore... The dating world in real life is so much different. It's a different universe to dating on television. I don't know how much crosses over."
Even though Anderson aired his feelings for Pappas on television and was teased relentlessly by the other suitors, and Anderson said he would "definitely do" The Bachelorette again.
"It was a great experience," he said. "It was probably the most enlightening thing I've ever done. I feel like I took more out of it than anyone. It was really easy for me in the end to discuss certain matters that in the beginning you couldn't have forced me to open up about. I think it was a great experience for me and I'm definitely glad I did it."
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